What My Ideal MMORPG Would Be

Just was thinking about what I'm really looking for in a game, and what I would ideally want in a game. Sadly, I do not think this game exists, but, here we go:

(These are in no particular order. They're just the order I thought of them)

• MMORPG
• PvP balanced separately from PvE
• Lots of variety for PvE content (raids, dungeons, two-player content, solo content, etc.)
• Large-scale PvP, with a focus on defense and teamwork
• Very customizable player housing (doesn't have to be as customizable as Wildstar, because that seems like an unreasonable expectation)
• Farming (of the agricultural variety)
• Lots and lots of classes to pick from
• Interesting crafting, materials gathered from player farm/housing
• Vanity pets (I like cats)
• Vanity outfits (like WoW transmog or FFXIV Glamour, etc.)
• Fast-paced combat that isn't just point and click. Need to utilize more than one ability to succeed
• At the same time, not too many abilities that it becomes overwhelming
• Lots of unique gear
• Graphics that aren't too realistic, and not chibi. Leaning towards anime-style-ish. More cute than gritty.
• Buy to play with vanity cash shop
• Holy trinity advised
• Dungeon finder or equivalent
• Good character customization (aesthetically). No gender-locks or anything like that
• Good character customization (mechanically). Able to mess with stat builds, skill builds, etc.
• Interesting equip customization system. Lots of ways to customize your equipment to suit your needs
• Fantasy setting preferable. Sci-fi or steampunk are also OK

So basically, Hyper Dimension Neptunia + Maplestory + Guild Wars 2 + Wildstar + DC Universe Online. With a bit of Harvest Moon and Animal Crossing thrown in.

Me finding a game to stick with is a hopeless cause :(

That said, if a game exists that miraculously meets all this criteria, do let me know, please! I think the closest I can probably get is GW2, but I hate not being able to play a dedicated healer.